Who is really running your life?
“Life without reflection is not worth living!”
Last week’s article was about true self as the way to love and care for the children that came through us. A false self will distort reality to meet his/her emotional needs and consequently have Ngelekek Chelsel (family hero) and Ngelekek Budel (the scapegoat). This is not the parents’ intent. The truth is our parents are victims of victims… and we stop the cycle and learn to love unconditionally. One cannot love from a false self just as false self cannot worship a true God. False self functions by outward behavior [performance] when the heart is devoid of love. False self uses rules and regulations as measuring stick to label their children and others. There’s a difference between disciplining (training) a child to make right choices and demanding obedience which causes a child to fear. Fear of punishment, that is. This is known as spiritual abuse. When a child is told to obey but fails, they are usually labeled as “bad” which is extreme shaming. John Lynch, in his book, “TrueFaced” said that our trying so hard to “Keeping the Appearances” hardens us because it feeds our False Self. We’re sorry. You don't have permission to access this page. Please sign up to have full access to this page.