What Is Unsolicited Advice?
Why Is It A Communication Killer?
When someone shares her pain caused by event or experience, she’s just sharing her feelings. She’s not asking for advice or help to fix the problem. She just needs to be heard, to be understood, and to be loved. Her feelings are just are and your compassionate heart is all that is needed. Giving advice too quickly diminishes the pain as if she’s not worth your time and you wonder why you can’t develop healthy relationships. I witnessed such scenario and began to tell myself that I need to grow in the art of compassion. I’m sure I’ve done it a thousand and one times and better not point my fingers. I’m sure I have hurt my loved ones who didn’t need advice. All they need is my presence, my listening ears, and sometimes my tears.